I can get pretty testy when opps are not playing cricket at the table. Especially when they attack my partner. It is sometimes better if your partner takes the initiative when the actions are directed at you. Some examples:
ahydra, on 2013-September-30, 03:49, said:
This occurred yesterday in a county swiss teams. Dummy had ♠K94 (I think this was no-trumps). Partner (declarer's RHO) led the ♠6, declarer followed with the 5, I followed with the 2. Declarer called "small" and as dummy started to pick up the 4, after around 2 seconds from the original "small" call, declarer corrected herself "no, win, bigger!".
(from either) "Well normally I would let this go, but seeing as you have been so unfriendly I am going to ask for a ruling today."
ahydra, on 2013-September-30, 03:49, said:
[*]partner defended a contract very accurately, but then I screwed up on the last few tricks, letting it through. After the hand we were discussing it and I said "good defence". This lady replied with "You are joking, I hope!" (I'd say that definitely violates L74A2!)
(from you) "No, my partner defended this hand extremely well."
(from partner) "Not that it would be your place to criticise either us regardless."
ahydra, on 2013-September-30, 03:49, said:
her partner opened 1♦, they eventually had some checkback auction to 3NT. I asked for an explanation of the auction and was told that opener had shown a 4-card spade suit.
Me: "but I thought you said you play 4-card majors?" (standard in England is to open 1S with 4 spades and 4 diamonds, if not in NT range)
Her: "yes, we do; don't argue with our system"
(from either) "We won't argue with your system if you explain it to us clearly in a way we can both understand."
ahydra, on 2013-September-30, 03:49, said:
Her: "She might also have 5 diamonds, but I shouldn't be giving you clues, you can work it out for yourself"
(from partner) "My partner asked for an explanation of the auction. We expect to hear everything so it is not necessary to give clues. So did your 1NT rebid (or whatever) promise a balanced hand or not?" "Are 6 diamonds also possible?" "What about a singleton?" "You know, if you told us all the information in the first place it would not be necessary to play 20 questions like this. Now, is there any other relevant information?"
The above would be typical from me if my partner was attacked. But you could also just go with "We are clearly not as expert as you, so could you please explain the complete auction in every detail."
ahydra, on 2013-September-30, 03:49, said:
Any advice on dealing with this? At the moment I'm just ignoring it but I really do wish she'd either tell me what her problem is, or (better) act rather more courteously, so that I don't get worried about getting into an argument every time I'm drawn to play against her.
Either you or your partner is going to have to be direct about it. There are lots of players around who love to do this, either because it makes them feel like Lord of the Table or, more commonly, because they realise it gives them an edge. And if her antics have you on edge then she is getting an advantage from it. Never allow anyone to bully you at the table. And even more importantly, never allow anyone to come between you and your partner. If you want to give your partner a compliment then that is your right. If someone wants to criticise your partner then tell them where to go. And the same from your partner when you are the target.
And finally, while many other systems are played, the Standard system in England (at least outside of London) is still majors first with 4432 hands. That is a part of both the EBU Modern Acol and Bridge Magazine systems. If the auction had been, for example, 1
♦ - 1
♥; 1NT - 2
♣; 2
♠ - 3NT, how difficult would it be to explain that Opener had shown a balanced or semi-balanced hand with 4 spades, 2 hearts and 4-5 diamonds and 15-17 hcp and that Responder has shown enough for game opposite that and implied 5 hearts? Or whatever the actual agreement are. If the description offered was only that 4 spades had been shown then this is hardly a complete explanation of the auction. Of course a better follow-up question would have been "and anything else" or some-such but you can hardly blame the OP when it was the opps that chose not to give a complete explanation to a question asked in the recommended format in the first place. All that does is encourage a lack of full disclosure, which should not really be tolerated at county level imho.