helene_t, on 2015-January-05, 08:22, said:
I will never understand how anyone can take offense from someone using a word that among other things refers to masturbation. Which other verbs are offensive? To breath, to eat and to sleep maybe? Otoh it is apparently fair game to call other posters racists, bad bridge players or loathsome diseased cunts.
I think it is fair game to call someone a racist or a bad bridge player, provided that one can point to reasonably clear evidence, from posts made by the subject of the criticism, demonstrating the accuracy of the criticisms.
Sometimes people are racist or say things that are racist without even being aware of it. My parents are bigots as far as east Asians are concerned...they routinely made derogatory comments that, looking back, were appalling in their insensitivity but they were creatures of their time and place, imbued with attitudes that were commonplace. I think they would have been offended by being called racist, even tho they definitely were. Even today, I suspect that there are people who don't even realize how sexist/racist etc their comments would appear to be to others, and calling them out would be beneficial, if done with some element of politeness. For those who are knowingly bigoted, and proud of it, they deserve to be called out, imo.
This should be confined to commenting on posts: references to real life matters should play no role. We can rarely check on such things, but we can all read the post said to display racism and can form our own views.
As for bad bridge players, well we all frequent here because we enjoy the game and most of us, I suspect, think we are better at it than we really are, or are seen to be by others. I don't think we should call anybody a bad player (I know I have broken that rule and I shouldn't have) but we can and should call out faulty or bad bridge reasoning or logic, since the main purpose of the forum is to discuss bridge. Anyone who posts an idea, other than in the B/N forum, should be ready to receive some pointed criticism of the idea. Anyone who consistently posts bad ideas should be ready to be told that they don't know the game very well: aka they are bad players.
However, attributing such descriptions to a poster should be done based on forum posts made by the person, not by references to real life or BBO performances. That way, we can all judge for ourselves how true the description appears to be. This is similar to the racism topic.
As for the gratuitous, sexist insult, and I think I know the reference, that imo is intolerable and ought to be met by a combination of a suspension coupled with the requirement for a full and acceptable apology before reinstatement.
I do think that those are all separate issues btw.
FWIW, I see the choice of an offensive name to be akin to (but far less serious than) the bigotry issue. I suspect that there will sometimes be some element of being unaware of either the offensive interpretation at all, or an unawareness that being offensive is not funny in anything more than a juvenile way. I have no clue as to how that applies, if at all, to the subject of concern
'one of the great markers of the advance of human kindness is the howls you will hear from the Men of God' Johann Hari