barmar, on 2015-January-15, 10:40, said:
I don't think we were expecting anywhere near this level of reaction to the Friends feature, in these days of social networking. We thought we were the outlier, as most other services only have mutual friendship (e.g. on Facebook you send a friend request, but you don't become friends unless they accept it).
Speaking for myself and those I have talked to this about, I think the real issue is that if we wanted Facebook, we'd just use Facebook.
One of the things I like about BBO is that I don't have to deal with all the social networking nonsense like adding/removing people, accepting/rejecting requests, and the drama associated with.
I want BBO to stay a bridge site, not Facebook/Twitter with a bridge theme, and this is the first step towards that, then myself and those I have talked to would be strongly against this movement.
My other issue is that it's essentially being forced onto us. On Bridge Winners for example, I do not follow people, I choose not to participate in that. Others can follow me, which is fine, but I choose not follow anyone back. I am just not interested in having a public list of who my friends are. The way the setup is now, I am forced to participate since I can no longer have a private friends list, since anyone can see if they are on it or not. So my choices are: Erase all my friends, accept that people are going to be upset/hurt because I deleted them, or never added them to begin with, or simply refrain from using BBO except when invisible.
The friends list was not broken, we don't need to know who is friends with who, that's what Facebook is for. I don't need access to private details and contact info because we are "friends." Why do we need this at all? This is a site to play bridge, and we already have these other tools available to us if we want to use them.
If we could put 2 different lists together and could mark someone as friend/following ourselves, THAT would be a nice feature. I could put people I talk to regularly, and play with on friends lists, while putting people I kib and recruit for teams in the following list, this would help my friends list not be as cluttered.
I hope you find this feedback helpful