[Jlall]

So.

I met this girl form Estonia, Triinu, I saw 2 blondes and I asked htem to come to the club with me. One asked me to describe Estonia on a map, and somehow I knew it was near Latvia. Sure enough, we meet but don't hook up because I'm too drunk to realize whats happning. She finds me on BBO and we talk daily. She plans a visit to NY, but 3 days before she comes I try to kill myslef. She visits me in the hospital and is great. We talk afterwards, and it's aweosme. I plan a trip there but 2 weeks before I go, I decide I don't want a girlfriend and don't want to deal with all that *****, so I decide not to go.

I think that I cannot deal with a relationship in general, let alone a long distance one. So. Howpatheric is this?

[jjbrr]

very pathetic.



PS hi forums.

[dicklont]

Give up the booze man.

[helene_t]

What Dick says. Sex is a lot healthier than alcohol.

[slothy]

Not pathetic at all dood

Just need to sort out what you want in life and go for it (easy to talk it, harder to walk it, i know )

Relationships are good by the way. its a matter of finding, or falling into, the right one (also, there is someone else to put the trash out at night when u forget )

Be Happy Justin


Alex

[Hanoi5]

I'm gonna have to go with dicklont here. Stop the booze and try to keep it private in the forums, create a bogus account and use it for this kind of posts; you don't want the Estonian or any other girl to read that kind of stuff..

[onoway]

Dunno if it will help but read a book called Potatoes, not Prozac. Although it's mostly advertised as a book for other difficulties, the author supposedly has had an unusual level of success helping people who have a problem with alcohol.

[TimG]

Jlall, on Jun 22 2009, 03:24 AM, said:

I plan a trip there but 2 weeks before I go, I decide I don't want a girlfriend and don't want to deal with all that *****, so I decide not to go.

What ***** would that be?

[Gerben42]

My suggestion is: No drinking for a while. Find out that life can be fun without alcohol too!

Long distance relationships are not everyone's thing, and from NY to Tallinn is a LONG way... When have you last called her? If it's more than a week, call her after reading this, deciding if you want to go on or quit.

Yes, I meant right now.

[kfay]

Dude no offense but if you've found a beautiful girl who you like and who likes you, then you're an idiot for canceling this trip. You've got basically nothing to lose unless you're afraid spending some time with her will make one or the other realize that you don't really like each other... but like infinity to gain.

This mentality about relationships is what fucked everything up with Genevieve for me. Don't make that mistake.

[mikeh]

'That *****' may be the best thing that can happen to you......

cutting back on the alcohol may be even better, especially since alcohol tends to feed depression, and, if that part about trying to kill yourself is true, maybe it's time to get some help there. The fact that she visited you in hospital says lots of good things about her. And you.

[matmat]

WTF are you scared of?

[IdiotVig]

You've never taken a flier before?...

It's kind of the same thing, really. You make it sound like a low-percentage, high-variance play. So, you can either 1) go for it; chalk up the good result when it works and learn from it when it doesn't, or 2) sit on your heels and listen to us in the post-mortem.

I know what my choice would be.

[karlson]

Perhaps you're mostly trolling, but ....

the thing that strikes me as the most insane is that you might seriously think that the forums, filled with bunch of people who only know you through bridge problems, might actually have good advice for the stuff you've posted recently.

This is what your real friends are for, the ones who've hung out with you a ton and know when you're happiest, and when you're at your worst, ideally ones who have met the girl in question. There are always a million subtleties, and if you listen to advice from anyone who can't possibly be familiar with them, you're an idiot.

[Phil]

No advice from me this time.

Pathetic? Yup.

[jdonn]

Can I have your ticket? Tell trinnu the best-hand god is coming.

[blackshoe]

helene_t, on Jun 22 2009, 05:27 AM, said:

What Dick says. Sex is a lot healthier than alcohol.

More fun, too.

[qwery_hi]

helene_t, on Jun 22 2009, 02:27 AM, said:

What Dick says. Sex is a lot healthier than alcohol.

Cerebellum disagrees.

[Winstonm]

It's not pathetic - simply self-centered. Get over yourself - you won't really be free until you grasp that you are only another brick in the wall.

[Al_U_Card]

To thine own self be true.

You got to where you are based on circumstances such as they were. If you can be happy (even moderately) with that then you are way ahead of the game.

Go for it, as you see it, questioning (even drunk) is okay....second guessing is for others.